Mothers Day can be a day filled with joy, love and happiness for most. It’s special a day to celebrate and thank the women who raised us and loved us. Social media and society has advertised Mothers day a day to celebrate with your children and have breakfast in bed. However, it can be a day that may be filled with grief, sadness, and loneliness for some. For others it maybe a painful reminder of the loss of their mother, mother figure or child. It can also be a sad day for those that are unable or trying to conceive or have complex relationships with their children or mother. COVID travel restrictions may have impacted the ability to celebrate Mothers Day with children, family and loved ones.

Is Mothers Day a hard day for you? How are you feeling? Do you know someone who may have or is experiencing any of the following life events discussed. Are you looking for ways to comfort or support others today? Below are a few tips on how you can comfort yourself or others on Mothers Day. 

How to comfort yourself: 

  1. Surround yourself with friends and family. Sometimes being with people you love may be comforting. You don’t have to be alone. 

  2. It is okay to grieve. Grief doesn’t have an end date or timeline; they are going to be days  when it hurts, and it’s okay to feel your emotions be vulnerable. You may have triggers and memories today or any other day. Finding a therapist to help you through grief may be helpful.  

  3. Write a letter; sometimes, writing a letter can be therapeutic. Write a letter to your child, future child, mother or anyone special to you today. Keep the letter somewhere safe or release the letter. 

  4. Write a letter to yourself. This can also be therapeutic and empowering. Save that letter or release it. 

  5. Create positive memories, do something special in remembrance of a loved one or do something special for yourself. What rituals can you create for yourself today?

  6. Unplug. Un wind. Self Care. It’s self-care Sunday; take some time to love yourself a little extra today and always.

  7. If you are going through a separation or divorce, be kind to yourself and celebrate yourself. My first mothers day as a single mother was really hard, I felt alone and my efforts of being a  mother felt underappreciated. I cried but reminded myself my worth as mother isn’t determined by having a perfect family, being married or in a relationship.

How can you can support someone on Mothers day? 

  1. Be present or check-in. If you know someone who is grieving today, check-in be present. Call or send a text if you are unable to visit in person. Also, be willing to listen; sometimes, they may just want someone to talk to. It may be hard to express their emotions but having someone to talk to can be comforting. 

  2. Remind them they are not alone. Knowing that someone cares and loves them is a great reminder today. 

  3. It is okay to grieve. Grief doesn’t have an end date or timeline; they are going to be days  when it hurts, and it’s okay to feel your emotions be vulnerable. You may have triggers and memories today or any other day. Finding a therapist to help you through grief may be helpful.  

  4. Honour their loved ones, allow time to remember them and honour them. 

  5. Create positive memories. It may be a day to help someone create positive memories. If they are trying to or unable to conceive be supportive and encouraging. 

  6. If you know someone going through a separation or divorce be there for them and encourage them.

At Sisters Healing Space, We want to say Happy Mothers Day and Send love and hugs 

  • To all mothers 

  • If you have lost a mother figure

  • If you have lost a child/children

  • if you are unable or trying to conceive 

  • if you have a complex relationship with child or mother 

  • If you unable to be with family or loved ones today 

  • If you are going through a separation/divorce 

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Nicholah
Author: Nicholah